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What do I make of these dreams?

Nigerian Canadian Newspaper Canada by Nigerian Canadian Newspaper Canada
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What do I make of these dreams?

Dear Agatha, 
I need your help. There is this man I have been dating for five months now. We are both in love with each other and he loves the things of God which is why I love him.
We are praying and planning to spend the rest of our lives together but the problem is, he dreamt two months ago that while he was introducing me to his mother, she rejected me but he didnt tell me. 
Strangely, the mother oblivious of my presence in his life called her son to narrate a dream she had. It was similar to the one my boyfriend had. 
Im confused. Should I quit the relationship to allow for peace between mother and son?

Precious.

Dear Precious,
The dream didnt say, both of you cannot marry;  only a warning, you might not enjoy the approval and support of your would be mother-in-law.

There is an adage that says, to be forewarned is to be forearmed against a situation. It means you should not feel bad or disappointment when she eschews your attempts at being friendly with her.

Sincerely, there is nothing strange in this dream. Most wives dont enjoy the love and friendship of their mothers-in-law so ending the relationship on account of this dream is totally out of the question, unless there is something other than the dreams you just narrated. If most women were to base their decisions to marry their husbands on the reception given them by their mothers-in-law the first time their husbands brought them home; many women wont be married today.

Chances are even the woman you want to run away from may not have married the father of your boyfriend, if she had factored the attitude of her mother-in-law into her decision to spend the rest of her life with her husband.

The hostility between daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law didnt start today. It goes to centuries back. It won’t stop with you ending this relationship. If women before you found a way round it, you will also find a way round yours provided your husband has the wisdom and maturity to handle his mother as well as the will to protect you from her.

If for nothing, consider the dream as a special grace from God, one that will help your husband from this early moment,  be prepared for the challenges ahead.
As a matter of fact, he has the greater role to play in this matter. He has to know how to balance his role as son and husband respectively to both of you.

In most cases fundamental issues arise from the inability of the man to provide a protective shield for his wife against the tyranny of his mother. Sincerely this should be more of your concern than terminating the relationship: if indeed you love and respect this man.

The dream came about because both of you have been praying and trusting God with your relationship and future. What God has done through the dream is to point you at the challenge you would have in the marriage. It isnt just about her not supporting the union, but also of her being the foundation of all the problems you are going to have in the marriage.

Therefore, you have to begin to pray the trouble out of your life and marriage. You and your boyfriend must also talk as frankly as possible about the challenges ahead. This is the time for you to dig deeper into his kind of person; to know if he is a mummys boy in which case you indeed have a reason to rethink your relationship with him or a man who has the kind of stamina to put his mother in her place.

There is no relationship without its challenges. As long as you and your man are united in this, you will win the battle provided you refrain from being rude to her.

As one aspiring to be a mother-in-law one day, you must show her respect, no matter how rude she becomes. There is no battle, love, patience and perseverance cannot subdue.

It will also do you a world of good to use your anticipated experience to prepare yourself for your future role as mother-in-law.

Every experience we go through in life is a lesson and teaching aid for those coming behind or others going through similar challenges. As a Christian, what I expect you to do, is seek the face of God in navigating your way through this landmine, He revealed to your boyfriend without getting hurt.

In addition, ending the relationship would make him regret telling you about it. Some men would keep such matters close to their hearts. Opening up to you is his way of preparing your mind for the journey ahead.

Besides, if you want to end the relationship on account of these dreams, you should at least first discuss it with him with a view of knowing how his mind is distilling and processing the information. In addition to asking for help from above, discussing with him will also assist you with an insight into the workings of his mind regarding the issue.

Sincerely, if you are not satisfied with the situation after your discussions with him, you reserve the right to end the relationship, but it shouldnt be before you talk to him. That would be condemning him without giving him the right to defend himself from the verdict of guilt you have unfairly passed on him on account of the dream concerning his mother.

Also, you have to examine why you might have problems with her. Are you really the person you claim to be? Can a mother trust you with her son in terms of managing him to be accessible to members of his family who may want one or two favours from him? Will you be willing to keep nourishing  their mother and son relationship without causing a quake in the home? The dream could very well be a warning to him that you might not make him a good wife hence his mothers disapproval.

So, if you are going to tackle this matter effectively, it requires a holistic approach because at times, we really dont know what we are capable of doing until we are in the middle of a situation.

Being religious isnt the same thing as being obedient to the ways of God.

Honestly, seek the face of God in this matter with your boyfriend to prevent future regrets or mistakes you dont even know you are making.

One thing I know is this, if both of you are meant to be together, it will work no matter the seeming obstacle.

Good luck.

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