In recent years, there has been a heated debate as to whether men should pay for women’s transportation fare when they ask them out on a date. While one school of thought believes that men should make it a priority to pay for the transportation fare of women they ask out on a date, another school of thought believes that a woman who cannot afford her transportation should have no business going on a date.
In this report, Stanley Ugagbe sampled opinions of some Nigerians on whether men should pay for women’s transportation when they ask them out on a date. Below are some of the reactions:
Ngozi Anizor, Business developer/procurement specialist from Delta State
I don’t think a guy should be responsible for a girl’s transport fare for a date. He is probably going to pay for the date so the least she can do is transport herself there, that’s the responsible thing to do! If the guy refunds……Great! But to assume it’s his responsibility is not right! If you don’t have money for transport as a lady, kindly decline the date. Also, if the date is too important and the guy pressures her, she can ask the guy for a pick up if he owns a car or communicate “nicely” her inability to foot her transportation bill, it is now left to the guy to decide if he wants to pay for her transport fare, postpone the date or cancel altogether.
Adeyeye Fisayo, Part Manager from Alagbado, Lagos
It is not compulsory for a man to pay transportation for a lady on date. The reason is because if a man asks a lady out on a date, and the lady consent to it or the lady said yes to the date that means she has transportation to come to the date but the man has to make provision for the meals. A good and reasonable woman will never ask a man for money on their first date. Even if the man gives her money for transportation it is very important for the lady to reject it. That shows she’s not a cheap woman and she knows what she’s doing.
Ekomobong Ituen, Legal Practitioner from Abuja
Yes they should. But if they don’t, it doesn’t make them less of a man. Little things like transport fare shows that the man cares. For some ladies it means responsibility on the part of the man, for others it could be interpreted as trying to impress the lady. So for me, it’s not an all fit sized blanket answer….each person and the circumstances would determine a perfect answer.
Asogwa Nnaedozie, Brand Manager from Abuja.
Men should definitely pay for women’s transportation. As a man you should take on the role of a provider and protector in a relationship. The fact is no matter how women talk about changing traditional gender roles, they will respect and be attracted to men who have traits of being a provider and protector. Another reason is that your attitude towards money speak volumes about the type of person you are, regardless of how much or how little you actually have. Having an abundance mindset helps in both dating and life. If you can’t drop her off yourself you can at least hire an Uber for her at your expense. If you can’t afford to pay for her transport you simply shouldn’t be dating. You are better off working on making money.
Moses Agam, Farmer from Abuja
I think if you ask them out for a date you should at least provide for the means at which the person gets there and so yes. But it’s not a law or a must, as a lady, show your self-worth at least, showing a sign of a liability at first instance is a turn off.
Integrity Joyce Okiti, Legal Practitioner from Lagos
Whether a man should pay the transportation fare of a woman he asked out depends totally on the type of man he is and the type of impression he wishes to make in the woman’s mind. Personally, I do not think it’s an obligation for a man to pay a woman’s transportation fare, but the act of doing or failure to do it will create an impression of the level of his generosity. Naturally, women find generous men attractive. Hence, an offer to pay may just be seen as a kind gesture for an independent woman. Back to the question: I say yes, a man should pay the transportation fare or offer to pick her up with either his car or an Uber. Such gestures bring out the masculinity in a man.
Moses Odogwu, Artist from Abuja
Men should not pay for woman’s transportation when they ask them out on a date. It’s a date! It’s like an invitation, if the lady wants to come to the date, fine! But if she doesn’t want to come for the date, she should stay at home. She’s not doing the man a favour by coming to the date, so I see no reason why the man has to pay.
Kate Uzounufoghor Anyaepia, Businesswoman from Delta State
You can pay, but it should not be mandatory for a man to pay for a woman’s transportation to a date. The woman should be able to have her own TP. But if the man decides to pay for her willingly as a show of maturity then there’s nothing wrong in doing that. Going on a date with someone is not just the man or the woman’s business alone. It is a partnership business therefore, it requires both partners to take full responsibilities involve in making it a better one. Hence, do not leave the payment of transportation or whatever solely on the man. He should pay to show love and kindness to the woman and the woman on the other side should be grateful and show appreciation for it because it is not a must for a man to pay for woman’s transportation on a date.
Kingsley Mbadugha, Creative Director from Abuja
Yes, they should pay. Inviting a lady on a date is just as giving her a treat and that moment you need her to feel her feminity. You need to shower her all the love. In fact, if you are mobile, you should go to her place and pick her up. Taking your partner for a date is such a romantic gesture and trust me, ladies value it so much. Most women haven’t been on a proper date. Every man should endeavor to treat his woman on a lovely date. It doesn’t have to be so loud, just something nice and sweet.
Paulyn I. Abu, Sales/ Inventory Executive from Ogun State
I don’t think it’s compulsory for a man to pay for a woman’s transportation to a date. You accepted to come out and should be able to foot at least your transportation. If the man offers to pay then fine but it is not your right. T-fare is basic nah, the man is probably going to pay for all the stuff on the date, transportation is just the bare minimum that an adult female should be able to afford.
Benjamin Ifeanyi, Web designer from Abuja
For me, it is a yes and no. When going on a date with a lady, she should at least be able to foot her own transportation fare, but on an occasion where she had told the guy she doesn’t have money on her at the time, it’s left me for me or the guy in question to decide whether or not to foot her transportation fare as well. But in a situation where a lady thinks because you’re taking her on a date means you should foot her transportation fare as well when she’s capable of footing it herself, the date will be cancelled.
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